Tuesday, December 29, 2009


When I was little,
I used to believe in the concept of one best friend,
And then I started to become a woman.
And then I found out that if you allow your heart to open up,
Time would show you the best in many friends.

One friend is needed when you're going through things with your man.
Another friend is needed when you're going through things with your mum.
Another will sit beside you in the audience or on the sidelines as you delight in your children and their activities.

Another when you want to shop, share, heal, hurt, joke, or just be.
One friend will say, 'Let's cry together,'
Another, 'Let's fight together,'
Another, 'Let's walk away together.'

One friend will meet your spiritual need,
Another your shoe fetish,
Another your love for movies,
Another will be with you in your season of confusion,
Another will be your clarifier,
Another the wind beneath your wings.

But whatever their assignment in your life,
On whatever the occasion,
On whatever the day,
Or wherever you need them to meet you with their gym shoes on and hair pulled back,
Or to hold you back from making a complete fool of yourself.
Those are your best friends.

It may all be wrapped up in one woman, But for many, it's wrapped up in several..
One from primary school,
One from high school,
Several from the college years,
a couple from old jobs,
On some days your mother,
On some days your neighbour,
On others, your sisters,
And on some days, your daughters.

So whether they've been your friend for 20 minutes or 20 years,

Think about all the women are in your life and the difference they have made for you.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

Hi, just came upon your blog and yes, I too have come to the same conclusion. Throughout my adult life I've had/have some great girlfriends but deep down I think I've wanted one to be my "best" friend. But as you say, different friends are there for you at different times. I am happy with that now. My hubby is my true best friend - my lead actor - and my girl friends are sort of like supporting actors. I couldn't do without them, but I've realised it's unrealistic to expect any one of them to be all I need/want in a friend.